#REALTALK

GIRL

Lately I haven’t felt like spending time with the Lord. This is unusual for me as I’m usually very on fire for God, and I’ve had to learning that sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to. I am definitely still learning this.

In life we have seasons: summer, autumn, winter and spring. The moon goes from a full moon to a new moon and all the phases in between. The ocean has high tides and low tides. Everything has seasons and phases. The same goes with life and our spiritual lives.

You cannot always be in the same season and as much as this is for you this is probably an even bigger reminder for me. I read this quote by Steven Furtick that says, “Passion is a choice, not a feeling.”  You cannot always be on a high in your spiritual life, you cannot always be 100% with the Lord but you can always make a choice.

You can choose to pursue Him, to have your devotion, you can choose passion even when you don’t feel like it. Because sometimes you have to do things you don’t ‘feel’ like doing. You cannot be lead 100% by feelings because sometimes what you ‘feel’ like doing is not what you should do.

Another poem I read that I thought is so relevant is:

“Life is unpredictable,

It changes with the seasons,

Even your coldest winter,

Happens for the best of reasons,

And though it feels eternal,

Like all you’ll ever do is freeze,

I promise spring is coming,

And with it, brand new leaves.” – e.h.

The beauty about seasons and phases is that they don’t last forever. Spring will always come after Winter and the beauty of Spring is worth the pain and cold of winter. Just as you cannot have Spring without Winter, you cannot have beautiful flowers without thunderstorms and you cannot have peaceful oceans without raging waves.

So, yes even though I’m not going through a summer in my spiritual life it’s okay. All seasons pass and this one will too. And I’m going to choose passion and choose God even though it’s hard at times because Spring is coming, and with it brand new leaves.

 

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AN OPEN LETTER TO THE GIRL WHO’S STILL SINGLE

GIRL ON MOUNTAIN EDGE

Before we get into this, I did a corresponding Youtube video to this blog post on my channel so you should check that out!

Dear girl who’s still single…I know your pain, I’m right there with you. I know how it feels like to watch all your friends be in relationships and still be single. To be the one with no one or nothing to talk about in certain conversations. But keep on going.

This sounds really cliche but the right guy is out there. It’s not worth it just giving your heart out for the sake of being in a relationship. Just be patient. It’s already hard and it won’t get hectically easier but keep at it.

Trust the God who made the universe, who holds the stars in His hands with your heart. Jesus sees your heart and He sees your desires. All He asks is for you to take them to Him, to trust Him because He is absolutely in love with you and only wants the best for you.

As much as this is an open letter to every girl who’s still single, it is also a reminder to myself because I’m also still single. A reminder to trust Jesus and embrace the single season that I am in right now. A reminder to trust that He has my best interests at heart and to give Him my heart.

One last thing be present. Embrace every moment that comes and enjoy this single season. Do things that are out of your comfort zone, spend more time with Jesus, family and friends. Live your life girl! Don’t wait for your prince charming when the King of the universe is calling your name!

 

 

ON DIRT AND GRACE

GRACE AND DIRT

Lately God has been teaching me about grace. Grace is such a crazy and beautiful concept because it is God’s love and mercy for us not because we deserve it but because He wants to give it to us and there is absolutely nothing that we could do to make God love us any less or make Him not want to give us grace. It’s His free and unmerited favour.

“Ever since the fall it’s been human nature to sin. And no matter how hard I try, without God’s help I am inevitably going to sin and screw up. You see you cannot have grace without dirt because they’d be no need for grace. And I’ve been realizing that I have a whole ton of dirt. Lately I haven’t been spending enough time with God, using the wrong language, seeing people in an impure way and the result is I’m feeling overwhelmed and unworthy. I mean why would God love me, someone who screws up so often. The thing is God’s love for me is not changed by my actions.” -An excerpt from my journal.

The biggest reason I struggle with accepting grace, and I think a lot of people do is the belief that what I do will change how much God loves me and how much grace He gives me. But God’s love and grace are not dependant on my actions and there’s something beautiful about that. The fact that God still wants me, no matter how much I mess up He still wants to give me His love and grace.

You see without dirt you cannot have grace. Grace helps you realise your dirt but it also washes it all away. If I was perfect there would be no need for grace and we would not experience the beauty that comes with it.Here is a quote that summarises this perfectly:

“Grace is a love that has nothing to do with us but everything to do with the one whom it derived: God. It is a powerful, divine, and vital piece of our existence, and it is the only reason we are able to open our eyes each morning. God’s grace is more than a second chance; it’s a third, fourth and fifth. It’s a love that keeps on giving regardless of our past.”

Are you accepting the grace given as a result of the dirt?

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7 HAPPY THINGS

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I find that focusing on the positives of a week really does help when you are having an off week and last week was one of those weeks. So instead of focusing on the negatives I’m doing exactly that andfocusing on the positives. Here are my 7 happy things:

All the rain

I absolutely love rainy, overcast weather and that’s the weather we’ve been having. There’s just something so fresh and calming about the rain and its smell.

Doing something that was out of my comfort zone

Yesterday I did something out of my comfort zone, something I normally wouldn’t do and it really was worth it. It was one of the most scary yet exhilarating things I’ve done so far.

I volunteered to work at the coffee shop at my church and it didn’t go the way it I thought it would to go (that’s a story for another day). But in the end I had an absolutely amazing time. I learned that it’s okay to mess up and there are always people to help you.

A group of amazing friends

I am so blessed to have a solid friendship group full of girls that are absolutely beautiful. Friends have one of the biggest impacts on you and by surrounding yourself with good friends that build you up it really has a good effect on you.

A special meeting

I had a meeting with the person I’m doing life with and it was pretty special. Just as with having good friends it is also important to have Godly counsel in your life. Someone who can help you, listen to you but also put you straight when you’re in the wrong.

A good dinner

I’m a big fan of good food and we had a really good dinner the other day. It wasn’t fancy or expensive it was just good food eaten with some good people.

Taking things slow

I have been so busy recently that I haven’t had time for myself, time to take things slow. I decided to take a break today and just recuperate and enjoy my own presence and it’s been absolutely beautiful. It really has helped to calm me and I feel recuperated and ready to face the rest of the week.

Did I mention all the rain

What are your 7 happy things?


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A POEM FROM MY JOURNAL


My Journal is the place where I write down nearly everything. It’s the place where I’m gut level honest, where I’m my most real and vulnerable. This is a poem I wrote in November of last year and I would love to share with you guys. So here’s a poem from my journal:

My life feels like a mess,

Ripping apart at the seams.

I’ve lost control and that scares me

But what if it was always meant to be like this.

What if life is meant to be a beautiful mess

So that God can help me clean it

In due time

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Messes can be beautiful.

They’re part of the process,

The process of becoming beautiful.

I want to fix the mess so badly

But by doing that will I not ruin the beauty

That comes as a result of the mess?

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This is a new season,

The hardest I’ve ever faced.

How am I supposed to trust when I can’t see or feel.

But is that not what faith is?

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I know He exists but I want more. 

I want to fully experience Him for myself.

I want to feel His love, to feel His presence

I cannot be content with where I am.

I need more, I want more of Him!

MY 2017 GOALS


I believe that setting goals is very important. It gives you a sense of direction and the feeling of achieving them is amazing! Setting goals also helps you evaluate your life and it gives you something to look forward to. So here are my personal goals for 2017:

Get closer to God

When people look at me I want them to see that I’m a Christian not because of the things I do, or what I say but because of the way I live and who i am. Last year I got closer to God and it was amazing but this year I would like to get even closer to Him and experience more of Him.

Appreciate the body that God has given me

At first this goal was get fitter but I realized that I wanted to be fitter in order to lose weight. I should be content and appreciate the body that God has given me because I am fearfully and wonderfully made and I should exercise not because I want to lose weight but because I want to take care of my body.

Be more intentional in building my relationships

One of my words for 2017 is be intentional. This year I really want to grow my relationships with the people around me. I want to put in 110% and cultivate these relationships.

Live in the moment

It is so easy for me to compare my life to others’ lives on social media, to focus on the mistakes I’ve made in the past or to worry about the future. The thing is life is short and every moment is a blessing. 

Start my hand lettering project

Hand lettering is something that I really like doing and I would like to launch a hand lettering Etsie shop. I’ve never done anything like this before so I’m excited to see where this takes me.

Connect more with my blog readers

It’s amazing to know that people from all over the world read this blog and I would really like to connect it’s you guys and get to know more about you.

Have more me time

I think it is very important to just spend some time in your own company. It’s a great way to rest and just refuel. I dint do a lot of this last year and it definitely made a difference.

Get academic full colors

Become a counselor and the first aid captain (at school)

Go on a camping trip

I really enjoy being outdoors and camping but I haven’t been camping in some time so I would like to go camping. It’s also a great holiday idea and a great way to bond.

Be real, authentic and transparent

I have come to realize that people who are real, authentic and transparent are some of the best people to be around. They are relatable, honest and vulnerable and I want to be like that.

Step out of my comfort zone

Stepping out of your comfort zone is intimidating but definitely worth it. The thing is your comfort zone is a great place but nothing ever grows there. This year I would really like to step out of my comfort zone more because that is when I’ll be challenged and will grow.

I don’t believe that I’ll change overnight or that I’ll just suddenly achieve my goals. I know that I’ll have to work on them and take many small steps. It won’t be easy but I know that what will come as a result will definitely be worth it. 

What are your goals for 2017?

ON BEING REAL


I am an organized person and one of the worst things for me is not having everything in order. But lately I’ve been learning about the beauty of spontaneity. The beauty that comes from trusting God and letting Him lead. Here’s an excerpt from a journal post I recently wrote:

Lord, I wish I could say that I have it all together but the truth is I honestly don’t. My mind’s all over the place, I don’t know what my future holds and I’m kinda scared. I feel like I’m in over my head but Lord help me to trust You. To surrender my life to You and love You harder than I have before.

I believe that this season I’m in is one of trusting God. One of fully surrendering to God and letting Him lead me on. The picture of trusting God to me looks like when a little child holds on tightly to their father’s giant finger with their tiny hand and allows him to lead. When a child trusts their father so much that they are not afraid of what’s ahead, because they know that the father will lead them.

Here are a few lyrics from the song Letting Go by Steffany Gretzinger. A song that illustrated this concept of trust and surrender beautifully.:

“You’ve brought me to the end of myself

This has been the longest road

Just when my hallelujah was tired

You gave me a new song
I’m letting go

I’m letting go

I’m letting go

Falling into You”

Life is not all sunshine and rainbows and sometimes life can be terrible and you may feel like there’s no hope. This year I’m going to get gut level honest here. I’m going to be real and transparent, in the hope that someone reading this will know that they are not alone, that there is someone who they can relate to.

REINTRODUCING MYSELF


Firstly I would like to say happy new year! I hope everyone had a lovely holiday and is well rested. Since I have gotten many new subscribers ,today I’ll be reintroducing myself.

I’m Zoë and I’m fifteen years old. I’m the face behind the blog and I live in South Africa. I believe that everyone is a masterpiece created by the Master of all artists. I find the smell of coffee and the smell of rain comforting. I’m the oldest of two children and live with both my parents.

I believe in being real and authentic. I believe in vulnerability. I believe in living not merely surviving.

I’m a creative person and like working with my hands. I think Pride and Prejudice is one of the best books out there. I love being outside, being able to smell the freshness around me. The countryside is my calm place, the place my soul is the most at rest.

I really like connecting with people, getting to know them and encouraging them. I love kids and how full of life they are. I believe in stepping out of my comfort zone, one of the scariest yet most exhilarating things to do.

I want this blog to be real and honest. I want it to be a place where I open myself up and am vulnerable in the hope that someone reading it will be able to relate. I want to deal with real issues and show real people on this blog. I also want this blog to be a place of encouragement and I sincerely hope that you will join me on this adventure!

LIFE UPDATE

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Hello lovelies!

I apologise once again for how quiet it’s been on the blog. During the Christmas season I will be taking things slow, but there will still be a post every week.

Can you believe how quickly this year has flown by? It feels like yesterday when I was walking into school nervous for the new year. Although I’m sad that this year is over I am very excited for the new year and with the new year comes exciting new projects:

In January 2017 I will be starting a Zoelicious-insider newsletter! This has been something that I have thinking about for quite a while and I’m excited that it’s finally happening. When you subscribe to the newsletter you will receive a monthly email with the newsletter straight into your inbox. It will consist of hand lettered prints, articles, an advice and Q&A column and so much more exclusively for you. I’m super excited to launch this new project but I cannot do it without your help and I hope that you will join me on this journey!

Lastly, I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you to each and every one of my subscribers, thank you to everyone who has read this blog and everyone who continues to support it. Without you guys I wouldn’t be able to do what I do. This blog started as a place where a teenage girl could dump her thoughts but it has grown into something much bigger than I ever could image, and without you that wouldn’t be possible. I am super thankful for each and everyone of you!

As you go into the holiday season please don’t forget that, “Rough times are pit stops, not destinations. For every rough spot there is a lesson to be learned, something to be realised, a habit to be changed or a perspective to adopt … A wrong turn or flat tire does not define the journey, it only adds to the story.” -Jeremy Roloff

Until next time,

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THINGS TO DO MORE OFTEN

 

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Hey lovelies!

It is so easy to get caught up with how busy life is and how awful it can be. That is why I think it’s very important to do little things that help you see the good in life and help you truly appreciate the world we live in. All you have to do is just stop and take a moment. A moment to watch the sunset, laugh at little children’s behaviour or even watch how the rain falls. So here are a couple of things that I have realized I need to do more often:

Spend some time outside

I recently had my morning devotion outside. I took everything and sat on the grass in our back garden and it is absolutely beautiful. There’s something about being outside that gives you space to breathe and just think.

Watch the rain

Rain is beautiful and just taking a couple minutes from your day to watch the rain is very relaxing. Like being outside there is something special about rain.

Watch something funny

Like EE Cummings said, “The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.”

Marvel at nature’s beauty

Nature is one of my favourite places to be. It honestly is amazing to see how well each colour works with the other and how perfect everything is without human intervention. How beautiful the flowers and the birds are, how well they work together and how content every one of them is.

As you’ve seen I absolutely adore nature and there’s actually a word that I’ve found to describe this:

Aesthete (adj.) – someone with a deep sensitivity to the beauty of art or nature

Have a lovely week! Don’t forget that your mind is a garden and your thoughts are the seeds. You can chose to grow flowers or weeds.

xoxo,

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